It seems when people prepare for interracial dialogue, their main priority is to prove their views are the correct views, as opposed to those of other races. This works against the suggested goal, which is to gain an understanding of other people's perspectives, as well as present your own. In efforts to prove their own viewpoints, people seem to create barriers and, rather than carefully considering the views of others, tend to listen for keywords they have already prepared a response for. An example of this would be a discussion concerning reparations in which and individual blankly stares at the speaker until he hears the term "slavery", at which point he interrupts the speaker and presents a lecture about how he is not responsible for slavery, and misses most of the information being presented to him.
In dialogue, the goal is to consider the thoughts and feelings of others, not to ignore them as you wait for a point to interrupt them. People justify the interruption by stating the messages being presented are things they have heard before, so it would be a waste to listen to them again. It is questionable whether these people ever listened in the first place, considering their blatant disregard of the message, and their assumption that the entire message is simply an accusation of responsibility for slavery. Also, the act of interrupting a message obviously important to the speaker, hinders the dialogue by presenting hostility and unwillingness to consider the views of others.
It also seems interracial dialogue is hindered by strong unexplained comments.
Examples of such comments are accusations of white people being responsible
for poverty in Black communities and drug problems, or accusations of Black
people being responsible for high crime rates and lack of government funds.
Accusing someone of being racist, insensitive, or responsible for a situation
that person does not understand, can obviously lead to resentment, whether the
accusations are true or false. The accusations may not seem so insulting
when they have been carefully explained. After contemplating the explanation,
the accused individual will be more able to consider the validity of the statements,
and may agree or disagree with them, rather than counterattack with a similar
unjustified comment, which would further hamper the dialogue.
The situation is more complex concerning racial issues, but the principles are the same. Agreeing to disagree seems to be equivalent to concluding that there is no solution to a problem. This leads to neglecting the problem, which can be dangerous if the problem greatly affects people's lives.
Although these proposed "solutions" were not true solutions, it does not mean they were not beneficial. It means they were not enough.
As stated in the beginning, this text is a work in progress. Just as it is important to carefully present thoughts and feelings in interracial dialogue, it is also important to carefully listen, so we will not disregard comments and answer based on keywords, as explained earlier. The words in this text do not reflect the opinions of everyone. They are only thoughts and suggestions. If you have thoughts and suggestions concerning this text or anything else, sharing them is easy.
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